When someone you love is in active addiction, communication can feel like walking on eggshells — or like talking to a stranger. It’s hard to know what to say, how to help, or how to protect yourself emotionally.

Helpful Strategies:

• Stay Calm and Grounded: Try to speak without shouting or accusations, even if emotions run high.

• Use “I” Statements: Instead of “You’re ruining everything,” try: “I feel hurt and scared when I don’t know what’s going on.”

• Avoid Arguments When They’re Under the Influence: Wait until your loved one is sober to discuss serious topics.

• Don’t Lecture or Threaten: It rarely leads to change. Set boundaries instead, and follow through.

• Express Concern Without Enabling: “I care about you, and I want you to get help. But I can’t support your drug use.”

What to Remember:
You can’t control someone else’s addiction, but you can control your own responses. Calm, clear, and consistent communication — paired with healthy boundaries — can help you stay grounded and maintain dignity, no matter what’s happening.

What You Can Do as a Family Member

• Get support for yourself — You don’t have to go through this alone.
• Set boundaries — It’s okay to protect your own wellbeing.
• Stay informed — Understanding addiction helps you respond with compassion and clarity.
• Avoid blame — Addiction is not your fault, and you cannot control another person’s choices.
• Focus on what you can control — including your own support network and emotional health.

You’re Not Alone

At FASN, we provide resources, guidance, and a safe space for family members affected by addiction. Whether you’re dealing with fear, frustration, guilt, or confusion — we’re here to walk alongside you.

Reach out to us today to learn more about how we can support you

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